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Back to Basics: Ideal Schedule 2012

Thursday, January 12th, 2012

Hopefully the scheduling tool you’ve chosen to help manage 2012 is working well for you (see my last post here).  Whether using paper or an electronic calendar, whether off line or online, whatever tool you’ve chosen needs to be what works best for you.  But your calendar does not fully “manage” your time.  You are the manager, and your calendar is a tool.

 

It is so common to use the calendar to simply organize our list of  time commitments.  We record our work appointments and meetings, our kid’s schedules and their transportation requirements, our church schedules and ministry commitments, etc.

 

Organizing our list of time commitments is certainly a big step toward excellent time management, but it is not the only step.  If this is your only practice of time management, you can end up feeling like the calendar is managing you.  Let me challenge you to manage your own schedule, rather than playing to the “default” practice of allowing the calendar itself to be your time “manager.”

 

One way to put this into action is to create an “ideal schedule.” Take some time to identify what your schedule would look like if it was ideal.  (Yes, I know that “ideal” is never going to happen, but bear with me to learn the value of this.)

 

  • Start by creating an ideal schedule for your days, weeks, months, quarters and years that reserves times for essential things like sleep, work and personal time.  Make sure you include whatever you need to do to keep yourself healthy.

 

  • Consider what you need in order to be healthy in all areas of your life – physical, relational, mental, emotional and spiritual.  You may want to also include financial health in this thought process.  And if you need motivation here – consider the analogy of the plane emergency.  You need to put the oxygen mask on yourself first to ensure you can do so for your children.  So ideally, take care of your health so you can then most fully contribute to the lives of others and most fully live out the rest of your schedule.

 

  • Given what matters most to you, what are the essentials that need to be on your calendar? These are things you choose not to compromise because they represent what’s most important to you.  So that may be kid’s activities and church schedule – things you will participate in that that are usually scheduled by others.  But it also includes things you will intentionally schedule yourself – things like date night, family time, ministry pursuits, meaningful connections with friends, etc.

 

  • Check your personal growth goals and schedule time to move toward them. Need to take a class or classes?  If the classes were scheduled ideally, what month or quarter of the year is best for you?  Are weekdays, evenings or weekends best for you?  Do you have personal study or reading goals?  Are you planning to train for a marathon or learn a new musical instrument?  What time of day is best for training or practicing?

 

  • Don’t forget to schedule time to maintain the routine things of life that support the things that are most important to you. Putting “personal time” or “personal routine” appointments on your ideal calendar for things like showering and getting ready for the day is an option.  Also, especially if you find yourself not remembering to eat at healthy times (which is surprisingly common), put meals on your schedule.  Unless you can delegate house cleaning and grocery shopping, reserve time for these things – and similar life maintenance pursuits (i.e. financial management mentioned above) – as well.  If you feel like putting the specifics of these things on your schedule feels too detailed or complicated, try just blocking of time for “life maintenance.”  Just be sure you know what that means to you and how to translate that reference into meaningful action.

 

  • Another “do not forget” is time for fun and recreation. Actually, this is an essential “to do” for maintaining health and reducing stress.  What brings you joy?  What contributes to your healthy relaxation?  Again, go back to the airplane emergency (mentioned above) to support your motivation for putting health-producing fun and relaxation on your schedule.

 

  • There are most definitely some “do not includes” on your ideal schedule. Don’t include things that are either not reflective of what’s most important to you or do not support what’s most important to you.

 

I acknowledged above that this ideal schedule is never going to happen!  But…your investment in putting it together can yield big results when you use it to help manage your “real” schedule.  I’ll cover how to use this ideal schedule and your return on this investment in my next post.

 

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Back to Basics: Calendar 2012

Friday, December 16th, 2011

The basics.  Even the best of coaches can loose track of the basics. Like time management.  Time management is pretty key to balance.  And we all want balance, right?  We want our coaching clients to have life balance too, right?  And yet life happens, our own balance is rocked and sometimes we need to get back to the basics.  Like time management.

I’m surprised at how many coaches come out of training without a plan for effective time management. Put simply, I’m surprised at how many don’t really keep much of a calendar.  Ouch.

Two initial steps to get you started:

1.  Don’t be without a scheduling tool for 2012.  If the way you did your calendar for 2011 worked well for you, then you probably know what system you’ll be using for 2012.  But if it wasn’t working, find a system that will best meet your needs.  I’ve decided I’m making a transition to Google calendar.  That seems efficient for me because I will have easy access on my phone.  Also, because I can create and share family calendars in Google calendars, I will be much more efficiently organized overall.  You may use a paper and pencil day planner and if that works for you, great!  Just don’t be without a calendar for 2012.  I challenge you to identify your scheduling tool now if you haven’t already.  Don’t wait until January.

2.  Once you have identified your calendar system for 2012, schedule time to sit down with it and get it organized with all the important dates and information you will need starting January 1.  Yes, I’m saying schedule a time – before January 1.  If you’re continuing with a system that has worked for you in 2011, you probably won’t need a lot of time for this.  But if you’re starting with a new system, you many need a couple of hours or so for this – and maybe more time if, in addition to scheduling, you’re learning a new computer interface or how to synch with your phone, for example.

If you are a naturally organized and efficient with your calendar, you probably stopped reading by now.  Congratulations to those who find this easy and natural!  As I mentioned, I have over the years had mentor coaching clients who start out as coaches with essentially no time management tools.  For me (and I have observed this with my colleagues – experienced coaches – as well), I will fully admit to times where my balance is rocked and I need to get back to basics.

In an upcoming post, I will be talking about actual “time management” and how that is different from scheduling a calendar.  However, now I am off to work on my 2012 Google calendar…

And by the way – if you absolutely love your calendar system, please share in comments!  I’d love to hear what is working for you.

The Complete Guide to Christian Coach Training Revised

Thursday, November 17th, 2011

Today I sent out a press release that announces the culmination of a big project I’ve been working on the last three months.  The Complete Guide to Christian Coach Training has been revised and features 20 of the top Christian coach training programs in the industry.  It’s a unique resource that streamlines and consolidates research for those considering coach training from a distinctly Christian perspective. Although this new edition has been available for about a month in the traditional ebook format, as of today a soft cover version us available for the first time!

I first released The Guide as an ebook in 2008 and have updated it annually, making this the fourth edition. Twenty Christian coach training programs are featured each with a two page profile including program descriptions, contact information, social media links and cost estimates.  Additionally, The Guide discusses the basics of coaching, clarifies accreditation, credentialing, and certification and takes readers through eleven factors to consider when choosing coach training.  There is no other resource like it.

To learn more and to order the ebook go here: www.mychristiancoachtraining.com

And … as of just moments ago … you can order the soft cover at Amazon!  Check it out here: http://amzn.to/vkW4KP

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Ask Linda: Who does coaching work for?

Tuesday, July 26th, 2011

I’m starting a new category of posts featuring coaching-related questions people ask me and the answers I’ve given.  Feel free to email me a question.  I will answer you via email and if it’s one that would be good for the blog, I’ll ask your permission before I post it.  Per your choice I can be posted with your name or anonymously.

Here is a question that was recently asked by a mentor coaching client of mine who is currently in coach training and planning to establish a coaching ministry.  She asked via email:

Since the last coaching session, I’ve been reflecting on coaching more. From the people I’ve coached so far, I almost feel like there’s a certain “type” of person that coaching works for and others that it doesn’t work for. For example, the type that seems to respond well to coaching are people who see they really want to change a particular situation rather than people who want to try coaching just to have a coach. I’ve noticed a lot less motivation with the latter. Also, some who have mentors or others that they process with don’t seem to open up to coaching as much. Is this true based on your experience?

And my answer: 

Yes, this is true. When I first started in coaching, I saw experienced coaches’ webpages saying things like: “if you are ready for a change and you know you can benefit by the support of an experienced coach who is dedicated to seeing you thru to success…contact me to arrange coaching…” Often experienced coaches would emphasize the need for a potential to be ready and to intend to invest time/resources into change. I didn’t fully get it early on, but now based on experience I know that it reflects what you are asking about. 

In theory, coaching can be useful to any healthy person who has goals and aspirations… as long as that person wants to change or wants to reach out for something new. However, when people are not in touch with their desire to change or do something new and when they don’t intend to take action, they are not ready to be coached. So it’s not really that the coaching doesn’t work or even that the coach is being ineffective (although of course that’s a possibility), but more that the person isn’t in a season of life where they are interested and willing to do what it takes to engage in change. 

As a coach, you can act to inspire change but of course the client has to choose to change.

As a new coach, your enthusiasm might drive you to take on clients who are not coachable.  Hopefully in your coach training you learned the difference between a coaching client and a counseling client and you avoid engaging the latter.  But sometimes even basically healthy people are not ready for change and they will not take the time or do the work required to make the change.  And they are not interested in being inspired to change. 

As a new coach, perhaps you have offered your services to a friend or a friend-of-a-friend and at some level they feel they are doing you a favor by helping you “learn” coaching.  Maybe someone who wants to support your business start-up is paying for your client to be coached – and the client is enjoying your “free” services but hasn’t owned their commitment to change.  Or perhaps your client is an employee of yours or on your ministry team and since you are their leader they felt they should say “yes” when you recruited them for coaching – and that’s their sole motivation for engaging in coaching with you.  If you suspect you are coaching in scenarios like this and you are not seeing change in your client, take the situation to your mentor coach and determine how to graciously proceed. 

If your client is not intending to invest in change they are not ready for your coaching services.